why hello there…

Wow we have been gone so long.   I am sorry, it is not you guys it is us.    We have been busy and trying to figure out what end is up.   We moved out to Denver which was great in many ways but it was ultimately not where we wanted to end up and so we were faced with the decision to put down roots there knowing that we would up-end our family at some point in the near future or up-end the family now.   We decided to live in the moment.    It was a very hard decision.    It meant leaving cousins and other family, and dear friends.    If you have met Olive and Fern, you know how hard that decision is.    But we have done it.   And we are happy in our little town in Vermont.   Yes. Vermont.    I bet many of you, if you have been following this blog, saw that coming.   We have a lovely little house (and by that I mean huge – it is four bedrooms) and for the first time since either of us have left for college we do not have an apartment number in our address.    Our garden is amazing and I find myself checking in on it in the morning and a night.   H.pants has a job and that has been a huge transition.    We both have not worked in a year.    An amazing thing really since neither of us have a trust fund…. oh trust fund please show up… I have been looking for you.    So yes, by living with family and spending every last dime of our savings we have not worked.    It was awesome and we are having a hard time letting go of retirement.   I will be going back to work soon but I have to do an internship here for 3 days a week before I can be admitted (oh yes, and I must take the bar again this July).    So there are so many changes.     J.pants will go to  daycare two days a week and his nana will care for him the other day.   We are nervous about that, but he is going to do really well.   He loves being around other kids.     Taking a nap without nursing? I don’t know.   Sleep? that is a whole separate post.

I have so much catching up to do.   I have been reading, but not consistently, and i hope to be diving back into that in the next couple of days.



Oh, and a few of photos of Mr. Pants

a Halloween pumpkin

It is not you, it is us

We have been so bad at blogging, of course that has been the lead of our last few posts and the last one was in September.   How the heck did that happen!!!    I am not going to promise or even think that I will get back to blogging.   I have thought about blogging so much, I still read everyone’s news every day (when I can) and I have been wanting to get back into it, but blogging is like any other friendship and it is hard to get back in touch when it has been so long.      I miss you guys.

It is a new year and I can’t help but to wish 2010 wishes to everyone.    I hope 2010 brings great happiness to our friends out there, pregnancies, healthy babies, happy relationships and joy.    Personally, I hope 2010 brings comfort and contentment with our decision to move away from Vermont (yes we are still here, but leaving in the middle of the month), some excercise (I would so like to lose some weight), and it is time to make some money since our savings are almost out so a job.     2009, I loved you and I will look back on you with so much fondness.   I hope that 2010 is that kind of year for the majority of you out there.

Dreams, Moving and Beginnings

Mommytoo asked when is the big move?

As many of you know, or may not know, the plan is that we are in vermont for a short time.    We had thought that we would leave Brooklyn in the early summer after Jpants was born which we did.   Then the plan was that we would go to our final destination (Denver) in late October.   Well,things have shifted.   We are now thinking we will make the trip after thanksgiving.   And this week we have been kicking around the idea of staying here until after christmas.  The truth of the matter is that I am having a hard time thinking about leaving.   I am often, read almost anytime we talk about it, teary.    H. is sad too.    We decided to live in Denver when we were living in NYC.   I don’t think either of us felt ready to live in a rural place.   It seems very doable now.   And we like it alot.    Of course, Vermont is easy to love in summer and fall.  Maybe we would feel differently if it was winter.     I would be surprised if we were not living in Vermont before Jpants is in school.   But then again, Denver is so so good because of H’s family and Jpants’ cousians.     It is such a complicated decision.

Olive asked what was the first year of H’s and my relationship like?

H and I had known each other for quite a while and had always been attracted to each other.   There were a couple of things keeping us apart mainly H being in a relationship and us being on the opposite sides of the country.   H broke up with her long time girlfriend and moved to  my side of the country in a time when we were not talking.  (We were not talking because at times it was very difficult to be in this strange limbo relationship that was really a very charged friendship.)  H contacted me out of the blue about a month before she moved to NYC and  I learned of all the changes in her life and everything was suddenly different.   We were talking on the phone almost every night and our relationship was an eventuality.     Anyway, I think the second weekend that she was in NYC she rode the chinatown bus up to Boston and we were together from then on.   We would spend our weeks in our separate cities but the chinatown bus that was only 15 dollars each way was a godsend.   In the spring I moved to NYC for an internship and we lived in different neighborhoods.   We would go to one home to another and in August we decided to move in together.   Our first year was a magical time.   It was a  time of deep connection and great fun.   We would explore the cities, cook amazing food and talk for hours at a time.


Well, I have been a horrible blogger.   horrible.

There have been some major milestones over here to report however.

H and I got married.   It was a big deal and also surprisingly nothing.   We had a civil union and we were legally married on our 3rd anniversary.   We exchanged our original vows but added one about honoring our family ((how the heck did we not have a vow about creating a family??)).    It is good to be married.   I have been enjoying calling H my wife – I just never really referred to her in that way before.   And she is not particularly wifey… it makes me smile.

Jpants is three months old.   It is amazing how did our baby get so big.   He is really big.  Not in a chubby baby way but as in he is a giant.   He is so tall.   The 3 month old sweatshirts and shirts look like belly shirts.   Not that I really mind he has a beautiful belly button.     He now can only wear medium gdiapers, which we are loving using.    I find them really easy and we are composting the inserts so I feel good about our earth impact.    I also really like that they are not all cloth because it means that we are doing less laundry.   We have lots of bumgenius but I have found they are really not my favorite.   I think because I already feel like my whole life is laundry.

With J being three months old, it is also been the anniversary of our BFP.  Oh the joy and worry and happiness anxiety about the beta.   I loved that time in our life but I am happy, oh so happy, to be here.      I think it is high time for a new round of BFPs.    High time, ladies.

Our boy is obsessed with music.   It is amazing.   He loves singing, dancing and his mobiles.   I, for some reason, did not pay any attention to mobiles in baby prep.   I did not realize how important they would be.   He just looks up at them and smiles and laughs.   My mom purchased a mobile for him off of ebay sells for 150 dollars for a fraction of that.   He loves it.   The music is good too.   I do not feel like a crazy lady listening to it.    His favorite song that we sing to him is BINGO, it is not at all my favorite song, but every time we start to sing it he smiles so wide, even if he is in a mini meltdown.   That makes it a pretty great song in my opinion.

My sister and her partner are coming up for the weekend.   I am not really excited about this boy.   How do you guys deal with it when you don’t like who your sibling is dating??   I am pretty close with her, and I have trouble biting my tongue.    I don’t really want to.   And I feel myself being actively cold to him.   Not nice at all, and I am generally a nice person.    I don’t want this to interfere with my relationship with my sister.

I do want to blog more.   I think of posts all the time.   I think I need help, I really like what my friend olive is doing with answering questions.  Maybe writing more will get me back into the habit of blogging.   Do you guys have questions for us?

getting back in the saddle

Olive says I just need to start blogging again.  Of course she said that 3 weeks ago, and of course she is right.   I think that blogging is like all other things in life, if you go out of the habit it is hard to pick back up.   We are here, we have moved, we are all so happy, and we have a two and a half month old baby (how did time pass so fast.)   Vermont is amazing.   I wish everyone could have this time to adjust to having a new baby.   Our days are slow yet so full.    We always manage a walk or a trip out some where.    We have been calling these trips our “adventures” which is a generous term for them.     Jpants is growing so big.   He is in the 85% for hieght and the 75% for weight.    We adore him.   It is a crazy love the love we feel for him.     There is so much to post, I am not getting overwhelmed and I am just going to post this.   Thank you for checking in on us even though we are horrible bloggers right now.    More to come (i hope this is not an empty promise.)



One month???

how did this happen?  also, how did it happen that we have not written in forever and that I have 100 plus posts that I have been wanting to respond too?

Oh yes, we have a newborn who just today is turning one month, that is it.    And we are crazy people and moving in one week from tomorrow.     I have so much to say, but the boy needs to eat so he can put himself to sleep.   I miss you guys and promise to write a better, or at least more in depth post soon.