Monthly Archives: September 2009

Dreams, Moving and Beginnings

Mommytoo asked when is the big move?

As many of you know, or may not know, the plan is that we are in vermont for a short time.    We had thought that we would leave Brooklyn in the early summer after Jpants was born which we did.   Then the plan was that we would go to our final destination (Denver) in late October.   Well,things have shifted.   We are now thinking we will make the trip after thanksgiving.   And this week we have been kicking around the idea of staying here until after christmas.  The truth of the matter is that I am having a hard time thinking about leaving.   I am often, read almost anytime we talk about it, teary.    H. is sad too.    We decided to live in Denver when we were living in NYC.   I don’t think either of us felt ready to live in a rural place.   It seems very doable now.   And we like it alot.    Of course, Vermont is easy to love in summer and fall.  Maybe we would feel differently if it was winter.     I would be surprised if we were not living in Vermont before Jpants is in school.   But then again, Denver is so so good because of H’s family and Jpants’ cousians.     It is such a complicated decision.

Olive asked what was the first year of H’s and my relationship like?

H and I had known each other for quite a while and had always been attracted to each other.   There were a couple of things keeping us apart mainly H being in a relationship and us being on the opposite sides of the country.   H broke up with her long time girlfriend and moved to  my side of the country in a time when we were not talking.  (We were not talking because at times it was very difficult to be in this strange limbo relationship that was really a very charged friendship.)  H contacted me out of the blue about a month before she moved to NYC and  I learned of all the changes in her life and everything was suddenly different.   We were talking on the phone almost every night and our relationship was an eventuality.     Anyway, I think the second weekend that she was in NYC she rode the chinatown bus up to Boston and we were together from then on.   We would spend our weeks in our separate cities but the chinatown bus that was only 15 dollars each way was a godsend.   In the spring I moved to NYC for an internship and we lived in different neighborhoods.   We would go to one home to another and in August we decided to move in together.   Our first year was a magical time.   It was a  time of deep connection and great fun.   We would explore the cities, cook amazing food and talk for hours at a time.

milestones

Well, I have been a horrible blogger.   horrible.

There have been some major milestones over here to report however.

H and I got married.   It was a big deal and also surprisingly nothing.   We had a civil union and we were legally married on our 3rd anniversary.   We exchanged our original vows but added one about honoring our family ((how the heck did we not have a vow about creating a family??)).    It is good to be married.   I have been enjoying calling H my wife – I just never really referred to her in that way before.   And she is not particularly wifey… it makes me smile.

Jpants is three months old.   It is amazing how did our baby get so big.   He is really big.  Not in a chubby baby way but as in he is a giant.   He is so tall.   The 3 month old sweatshirts and shirts look like belly shirts.   Not that I really mind he has a beautiful belly button.     He now can only wear medium gdiapers, which we are loving using.    I find them really easy and we are composting the inserts so I feel good about our earth impact.    I also really like that they are not all cloth because it means that we are doing less laundry.   We have lots of bumgenius but I have found they are really not my favorite.   I think because I already feel like my whole life is laundry.

With J being three months old, it is also been the anniversary of our BFP.  Oh the joy and worry and happiness anxiety about the beta.   I loved that time in our life but I am happy, oh so happy, to be here.      I think it is high time for a new round of BFPs.    High time, ladies.

Our boy is obsessed with music.   It is amazing.   He loves singing, dancing and his mobiles.   I, for some reason, did not pay any attention to mobiles in baby prep.   I did not realize how important they would be.   He just looks up at them and smiles and laughs.   My mom purchased a mobile for him off of ebay sells for 150 dollars for a fraction of that.   He loves it.   The music is good too.   I do not feel like a crazy lady listening to it.    His favorite song that we sing to him is BINGO, it is not at all my favorite song, but every time we start to sing it he smiles so wide, even if he is in a mini meltdown.   That makes it a pretty great song in my opinion.

My sister and her partner are coming up for the weekend.   I am not really excited about this boy.   How do you guys deal with it when you don’t like who your sibling is dating??   I am pretty close with her, and I have trouble biting my tongue.    I don’t really want to.   And I feel myself being actively cold to him.   Not nice at all, and I am generally a nice person.    I don’t want this to interfere with my relationship with my sister.

I do want to blog more.   I think of posts all the time.   I think I need help, I really like what my friend olive is doing with answering questions.  Maybe writing more will get me back into the habit of blogging.   Do you guys have questions for us?