Massive update.

Okay it has been forever since either of us have updated – please forgive us.  And please forgive us for a bulleted post there has just been so much going on to have a concise post in any other fashion.

• We went to go see H’s grandmother.   She is our only living grandparent and we both love her so very much.   Her health has been not great but it was so wonderful to see her doing well – sometimes it is difficult to assess how someone is over the phone.    If we are having a girl we plan to name her after H’s grandmother.     She was really funny about this.    She asked me if I was sure I wanted to name the baby after her.   And after I said yes she said “Well, you know what you are getting yourself into”.    It was funny.    We just love this opinionated and lively 91 year old lady and we would be so grateful if our child turned out like her.
• While there we also got to see Lizzie.    It was good to leave the retirement community and wonderful to see Lizzie.  We had coffee and walked around her neighborhood.   I am again reminded of how wonderful it is to have the friends we have made through this blog – while we did not expect that outcome we are always grateful for it.   She gave us our pay it forward present.    A really wonderful fleece blanket that Sprout will be so cozy on.   (Eeks we have got to get on our pay it forward presents!)
• Sprout is doing great.    He/She is head down, kicking all the time, measuring right on the due date, and certainly seems brilliant so far.     We are 33 weeks -  EEEKS.     We are ready, we are ready, we are ready.    I am feeling pretty good.   My hip pain has seemed to get better and really my only complaint is that my heartburn has been pretty bad.   I am always checking to make sure that I have T.ums with me.    My other big pregnancy symptom is that my right br.east has been leaking… it is a bit freaky.    I guess I am happy that it is gearing up to work well – should I worry about my left???
• We have finished our birth class and really we are thankful to be done.    Our instructor never was able change her language from Mother/Father on any consistent basis.    Our fellow couples were so great and never made us feel awkward but the teacher really did.     When you new york couples are (soon) looking for a birth class in NYC we really encourage you to contact us so you don’t go to the class we did.    I think the BIG lesson learned is to ask more questions such as “have you had same-sex couples in your class?” “have you been to a same-sex couples birth” etc.     Our instructor came to us very highly recommended but from a straight couple and we live in such a liberal place – we just did not think.     We will certainly be asking these sort of questions for the pediatrician, pre-school etc.
• I think because it has been a little warmer and I have been wearing more form fitting clothes people have been noticing that I am pregnant.    I have been getting tons of comments from people who I see at work only occasionally.  Also, strangely, homeless men have been commenting on my pregnancy status.    2 out of 3 of them have stated that I am having a girl.    This is actually been the general vote from co-workers and friends.    There are so many days when I wished we just knew – although I am pretty sure I would make the same decision to wait if I were to make it again.
• My mother was in town for the last 6 days.    It was so wonderful to see her and she was able to meet one of our midwives.    I was sad to see her go, although I felt a bit over momed.   I am sure you can relate to that feeling.   She loved feeling this little baby move and it was a lot of baby talk.
• My sisters and our friends have organized a shower for us in a couple of weeks.    I am excited to celebrate this baby with them.     I am bit more nervous for the shower that is being planned at work.   I really don’t like to be the center of attention.    Although I am sure most people will be coming for the food options.
• Vermont has legalized same-sex marriage which means that we will be getting hitched this September on the anniversary of our civil union.    H has been talking about how excited she is to say our vows while holding Sprout and I have just been tearing up.    I consider H my wife but I think being legally married will have an affect on how I talk about it.

I am going to try to update more often.  really. xoxo L.