I have been super busy at work and I have been writing this post in my head for a couple of days. I feel it might be scattered. (Working night court will do that to a girl.)
We had a wonderful weekend. We were at home and spent the majority of the day on a local beach. It was so good for my soul. We just sat, laughed, listened to the waves and then bobbed around in the ocean. It was completely restoritive. We then came home, a bit burned around the edges and went off to have a “coffee date” with D and K of Puffer and the Baby Fish. It was so nice to meet them in real life even though I got a bit nervous right before we saw them. I’m a shy person deep inside. Meeting them has made me be so grateful for all of you internet friends and I wish I could have a long talk over a cup of green tea with all of you.
The beginning of the week has been crazy at work as aforementioned and H and I have been really focused on getting new iphones. (Why, yes this is a silly expense when we don’t know how much sperm we will need to purchase in the next couple of months, but we said “fu*k it” and purchased them last night. Now I surf Google reader while waiting for ever in court. I think this phone will make my life easier if not cooler. It is sort of silly to have such a fancy pants phone. ) Anyway, this week has flown by and I have have barely noticed that it is now day 11 and I am sorry I have not been commenting at all this week. I have hopes to improve this afternoon. I have been doing pretty good with the wait. I am on progesterone which honestly put a dent in my hope for this cycle. I think to myself if I was pregnant then I would not need progesterone. My RE’s nurse said that me needing the suppositories means nothing and I have been trying to follow my acupuncturist’s advice to relax and let stress roll off of me. I have been doing pretty good at this mission. I am sure I would be doing better if I could be swiming in the waves instead of working.
So we are at a decision point on two issues and I would love your input:
A: Do we test or not test? We tested via POAS on our first cycle, not on our second, what should we do for #3?
B: Should we stay with our current RE? Important things of note are that we like her, she is closing her practice which is conveniently located and moving to a different practice that is not so convenient (1 hour subway ride), and her new practice will not store sperm for over one cycle so that means we will be spending a considerable amount on shipping. We are considering moving to a bigger practice that would be associated with a hospital and that could also do IVF. It would still be a long commute to a new practice, but perhaps they would store sperm for a fee.
Thoughts?
7 responses so far ↓
mommytoo // July 17, 2008 at 12:23 pm |
do you mean a pg test? i don’t recommend it unless you feel pretty confident, because it can be really upsetting either way. that said, we did test — d was pretty sure, and it ended up working out.
as for changing repro endos, can your current doc recommend someone else that is convenient, gay friendly, and fab?
nutella // July 17, 2008 at 12:55 pm |
I vote for not testing until you are late. Of course, this is easy for me to say as I’ve got pretty regular short cycles.
And I second mommytoo’s opinion about asking your RE for a recommendation. Those 2 factors are pretty huge considerations. If you still want to work with her, see if she can find you a lab that’s willing to store sperm longer term. You might have to take the responsibility for transport between lab and RE, but it would still be cheaper than shipping from the bank each month, right?
Olive // July 17, 2008 at 1:10 pm |
I’m glad you posted – I’ve been wondering how you are. I SO wish I was bobbing in the ocean with you two. I miss the ocean so much. And it’s so sweaty and land-locked here – ick.
I don’t think you should follow your RE since it’s such a long commute. You don’t need to add more stress to this with more time off work etc. for every appointment. If it takes a few more months you might really grow to resent the decision as you spend hours on the subway. I agree about asking for a rec – there must be other cool REs around.
I don’t know what to say about testing since we test religiously. While negative HPTs are devastating, for us they’re like a slow let-down. We get advanced warning that we should probably expect blood rather than just finding it one day. I know we’re in the minority here.
While I’m thinking of it, I might be in NYC in early August (still waiting to figure out if I’m going to this conference). I’d love to see you!
wishinghopingpraying // July 17, 2008 at 3:25 pm |
Pleae don’t worry about taking progesterone. It’s doesn’t mean anything, just think of it as insurance. As far as testing goes our RE doesn’t do betas without a +HPT so we have to or else just sit around and wait for AF, which can be delayed by progesterone. I am sure you will make the right decision. I am keeping everything crossed for you!
Travelher // July 17, 2008 at 10:17 pm |
You were nervous??!! I didn’t know that! How cute! It was a lesbian double blind date, so funny!
We had a great time meeting you both as well.
In fact, I was really craving a Shack burger today and thought…no, I’ll save it til I have one with L and H!
OK, so the progesterone will delay your period. So, if you stop it at 14 dpo, you will still have to wait a few days (for me, 2 days) til you get your period.
OR, you can go into your Dr. to take a blood test at 14DPO. That’s what I did. Because, if I were to be pregnant, he would want me to stay on the progesterone a little longer–increases chances.
I haven’t POAS’d since May. I’m in the minority here, but I just don’t like constantly peeing on sticks. I did it the 1st couple of tries, but it was b/c I’d been giving free ones. Now, I just wait.
I know that my RE is still a subway ride for you, but they do store sperm, we’ve had 3 vials shipped each time. However, I know that it’s a hard choice between what is near and who is good and you like. Big decision.
j.k-c. // July 18, 2008 at 3:46 pm |
I say wait on the testing. It was WAY less anxiety provoking for me. I couldn’t STAND looking at negative pregnancy tests.
We travel 45 minutes to see our doc so I don’t mind distance, as long as it is worth it.
yup, another sara // July 21, 2008 at 5:24 pm |
I am anti-testing (as you probably know). For me, that negative test is just too depressing (it’s worse than just getting my period somehow). But you will have to make peace with the waiting if you want to go that route. As far as the RE goes, I would suggest that you either stay with the person you like (because I think that is HUGE) or get a rec. from your current RE for someone that she likes. I can’t imagine going through this process with someone that I did not really like and trust.
Here’s hoping that you won’t need any of this advice!